This week on the Homeschool Highschool Podcast: You Are the Right Parent for Your Homeschooler, Interview with Anita Gibson. This post is running concurrently on the Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.
You Are the RIGHT Parent for Your Homeschooler, Interview with Anita Gibson
Ever have doubts about your ability to parent your homeschool high schoolers? The high school years can be a challenge. After all, we know that we are preparing our teens for life after graduation. We want them to be ready for all they will be facing. What if we do not do enough for them and with them? We can be full of doubt! That’s why we asked our good friend, Anita Gibson, to chat with us. She shares why you are the right parent for your teens.
Anita has homeschooled for over twenty years, and as she says:
It’s been the good, the bad and the ugly! Parenting is the real deal!
Coming out on the other end, Anita says that she is glad she had the homeschool years to get to know her kids well and help them find fulfilling lives.
Anita administrates Simply Homeschool Facebook group, is a director of several local homeschool programs, leads a team of seven high school educational consultants for HSLDA, and has started the website National Homeschool Advocacy.
So in this episode we are talking about why you are the right parent for your homeschooler!
Why are you the right one to parent your particular teens? Here are some reasons:
God gave you that child
It was not an accident! You were specifically assigned that child by God. He also gave you what you need to do raise that child well. Even on a bad day, when we are doubting ourselves we can recalibrate with the thought:
We can depend on God and the fact He will continue to equip us with what we need to homeschool our teens well.
However, we need to remember that our parenting and homeschooling is not dependent on our strength, but on the strength and wisdom that God will give us (II Corinthians 12:10).
The homeschooling parent we are now is not the homeschooling parent we will be at the end of this process
God gave us teenagers to help us grow! We are in the middle of a growth process, just as our teens are growing!
Have you ever noticed that before we started parenting, we were “parenting experts”? At least, that is how Vicki saw herself. There is nothing like real parenting, though, to squash the feelings of expertise! She found out that she needed her homeschool mom-friends as well as God’s help in the parenting process. Therefore, she grew spiritually, emotionally and socially as much as her teens did throughout the homeschool process!
Perfection is not required
The longer you homeschool high schoolers, the more you will notice your imperfections! So, remember:
Perfection is NOT required!
Over time you will become something more but where you are is the perfect place to start. When you are called to parent or homeschool, hold onto the fact that once you start, success (not perfection) is in your future. God plans for you to have success (even though you will have ups and downs, hard days, dark days as well as lots of good days).
God is not requiring perfection. When He gave you the homeschooling high school job, He didn’t expect you to do it perfectly- because none of us could anyway!
Get used to waiting
It is wise to adopt the “spiritual posture” or mindset of waiting. While you are waiting on God’s direction, strength or wisdom, if you are wise you learn to have peace- even in those challenging moments. It is the kind of peace that does not deny there are stressors going on, but the kind of peace that knows the answers will come.
We Americans often feel we need to have all our skills and wisdom NOW. Instead, remember that God has planned for success. Success is in our future! His version of success might not look like our version of success, but it is a good success anyway!
Be humble in front of your teens
Model praying for your homeschool high schoolers and ask them for their prayers for your own growth and wisdom. That is the fruit of the Spirit: Humility.
Then listen to your teens’ input. For instance, when one of Vicki’s teens had enough of Mom’s attempts at helping him with high school math, they found a mom at our local homeschool umbrella school to teach him instead. This did not mean that Vicki was the wrong homeschool parent for her teen. Rather, it meant that Vicki was becoming a resource manager. After all, as Anita says:
Homeschooling is about teaching your children how to learn!
We parents are not supposed to be the best at everything! Rather, we want them to learn that as adults, they can look for resources to keep learning things they need to know.
No one can homeschool high school better for your teens. You are the right parent for your homeschoolers!
Remember, God will use your strengths, weaknesses and His grace to grow you and your teens. There will be challenges and growth, hard things and good times, teaching and farming out the teaching. It is all good in the long run.
Also, remember not to compare yourself with other homeschooling parents. You are supposed to be growing and intentional in your relationship with God and your family members. You are NOT supposed to be the same as other homeschooling parents!
An example of being the right parent for homeschoolers
Anita’s daughter was born talking. She taught herself to read at a very early age but she still talked all the time. Anita sometimes had to lock herself in the bathroom just for an escape from the chatter. She found it tempting to want to shut the chatter down. Eventually, God showed her these gifts:
- Her daughter WANTED to share her thoughts with her. That is a privilege!
- Anita needed to allow God to give her more capacity to attentively listen.
- She also found ways for her daughter to use her voice in debate and drama. This led to college scholarships in international policy and now a career in the diplomatic corps. Now she gets paid well to do the very things that had once been irritating. In this way, God grew both Anita and her daughter!
Anita found that she was the RIGHT mom for her homeschoolers, by God’s grace.
One last thought from Anita:
Don’t try to change your kids or you from the outside…It’s an INSIDE job! The job that comes from the work of God in you and through you.
Remember God made us the right parent for our kids so we can KNOW, that we and our kids can rest in Him and grow.
Join Vicki and Anita for an encouraging discussion that reminds you that you are the right parent for your homeschooler! Also check out these other marvelous chats with Anita:
- Homeschooling High School during the Summer
- Helping Teens Discover Their Star
- The Power of Homeschooling Parents
- How to Know and Believe in Your Teens
- Helping Teens Believe in Themselves
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